While you are waiting for the time and mate God has for you, how do you relate to the opposite sex in the mean time? When you are young your hormones are going like crazy and it is hard when you are dating to not be thinking "Gee, is this the person I am going to marry?" or other thoughts that want to go through your mind. How do you keep your thought life under control and know spiritually and relationally what God’s purpose and boundaries are in your dating this person or that person? Until Jesus is ready to introduce the mate He has for you, how do you keep control of Your thought life? By asking Yourself three questions:

"Jesus, what is Your will for this person’s life?"

"What are the obstacles that are in this person’s life that are keeping Your will from being fulfilled?"

"What part do you want me to play in seeing these obstacles removed so that Your will in this person’s life can become a reality?"

Knowing the answer to these questions will tell you what your boundaries are in the relationship, God’s purpose in your dating this person and what He wants to accomplish through you in this person’s life. Knowing the answers to these questions will also immediately bring Your hormones at bay as you realize outside of God’s temporary purpose this person is off limits for you beyond your helping them spiritually in their relationship with Jesus.

When I met my wife she asked me for prayer about God’s will for her in finding a mate. She was also very interested in my Evangelism Training Program of which she went through both the Basic and Advanced. As I was helping her, the Lord spoke to my heart and told me she was His best answer for me in a wife. You may say "How do you know this was the Lord?" After several years of marriage to her I can testify that this was the Lord. We work together in Jesus like a well oiled machine. One of the things the Lord ministered to me when he began to deal with me about her was that any problems we had would always be worked out. My wife is the most wonderful person in the world. I am so thankful for waiting for the one Jesus had for me and His timing.

Before this I had gone on many dates and asking those three questions always made it a pleasant experience and we walked away without any bad blood between us since Jesus’ purpose had been accomlished.